Author: Zill Huma

یہ ایک مقبول عقیدہ ہے کہ حمل کے دوران عورت کی لِبیڈو، یا جنسی خواہش، فطری طور پر بڑھ جاتی ہے، لیکن اکثر اس کے برعکس ہوتا ہے۔ دیگر عوامل حاملہ عورت کی جنسی خواہش کو سنجیدگی سے کمزور کر سکتے ہیں۔

ایسی بہت سی وجوہات ہیں جن کی وجہ سے عورت کو حمل کے دوران جو تبدیلیاں آتی ہیں وہ اس کی جسمانی اور جذباتی حالت کو متاثر کر سکتی ہیں، اور توسیع کے لحاظ سے، اس کی لبیڈو۔

حمل آپ کے بچے کی پیدائش کی تیاری میں اہم ہارمونل تبدیلیوں کو متحرک کرتا ہے۔ یہی تبدیلیاں ایک دن خوشی اور امید کے جذبات کو جنم دے سکتی ہیں اور اگلے دن آپ کو غصے یا مایوسی کے بھنور میں ڈال سکتی ہیں۔ اگرچہ یہ اتار چڑھاؤ بالکل نارمل ہیں، لیکن یہ آپ کو تھکاوٹ اور تھکاوٹ کا احساس دلا سکتے ہیں۔

معاملات کو مزید خراب کرنے کے لیے، آپ کو احساس جرم کا سامنا کرنا پڑ سکتا ہے اگر آپ کو libido کے نقصان کا سامنا کرنا پڑتا ہے۔ آپ کے جسم میں مزید تبدیلیوں سے پہلے آپ کو اچانک جنسی تعلقات کا دباؤ محسوس ہو سکتا ہے، جو خود شک کے جذبات کو ہوا دے سکتا ہے اور آپ کو ایسا محسوس کر سکتا ہے جیسے آپ نے اپنے ساتھی کو مایوس کر دیا ہو۔

جیسے جیسے توانائی کی سطح بحال ہوتی ہے، اسی طرح آپ کی تندرستی اور جنسی خواہش کا احساس بھی بڑھ سکتا ہے۔ ایک ہی وقت میں، اندام نہانی کی چکنائی میں اضافہ، clitoris اور اندام نہانی کے engorgement کے ساتھ، جنسی کے معیار اور تعدد دونوں کو بڑھا سکتا ہے۔

لیکن تیسرے سہ ماہی میں، چیزیں ایک بار پھر مخالف سمت میں جھول سکتی ہیں۔ جب آپ اپنی مقررہ تاریخ کے قریب پہنچتے ہیں تو وزن بڑھنا، کمر کا درد اور دیگر علامات موڈ میں آنے کو مزید مشکل بنا سکتی ہیں۔ پھر بھی، یہ ہمیشہ ہر عورت کے لیے نہیں ہوتا۔ بہت سے لوگ حمل کے بعد کے مراحل میں سیکس سے اتنا ہی لطف اندوز ہوتے ہیں، حالانکہ ان کے پاس اس سے کم ہو سکتا ہے۔

Libido کے نقصان سے نمٹنے کے لیے ایمانداری، خود قبولیت اور بات چیت کی ضرورت ہوتی ہے۔ آپ کا ساتھی آپ کے جسم پر ہارمونز کے اثر سے ہمدردی کا اظہار کر سکتا ہے اگر آپ اس بارے میں کھلے دل سے ہیں کہ آپ جسمانی اور جذباتی طور پر کیا محسوس کر رہے ہیں اور کیا تجربہ کر رہے ہیں۔ اگر آپ سیکسی محسوس نہیں کرتے ہیں، تو اپنے ساتھی کو بتائیں اور کوشش کریں کہ کسی بھی تبصرے کو فوری طور پر مسترد نہ کریں جو وہ مددگار ثابت ہونے کی کوشش میں کر سکتے ہیں۔

کم سیکس ڈرائیو کا تجربہ بہت سی خواتین کے لیے حمل کا ایک عام حصہ ہے، اور اس کا مطلب یہ نہیں ہے کہ آپ کے ساتھ کچھ غلط ہے۔ اپنے ساتھی اور اپنے ڈاکٹر کے ساتھ کھل کر اس بارے میں کہ آپ کیا محسوس کر رہے ہیں، آپ اس بات کو یقینی بنانے کے لیے اقدامات کر سکتے ہیں کہ آپ اپنی زندگی کے اس مرحلے کے دوران اتنے ہی آرام دہ ہوں جتنا آپ ہو سکتے ہیں۔

Imran Khan comes across as a cringe frustrated tharki budha. Ayla Malik is quite funny and not as dumb as I thought she was. Her lambasting other women wasn’t funny at all. THAT was cringe. People’s sexual preferences are their own and they shouldn’t be shamed for it. It’s the hypocrisy of the morality being preached to the country publicly which is problematic. The funny part was not her making fun of others, but the way she talked to IK. But also married people having affairs isn’t kosher. Whether it’s a man or a woman. Absolutely – but that discussion no one’s even willing to have. He’s a man living in riast e madina. And men are not robots so all will be forgiven. Being a “play boy” even at 70 is so cool.

I’m willing to have that discussion. And have always stressed that the reason personal lives of prominent figures are brushed under the rug in Pakistan is to give men a pass and allow this hypocrisy to continue. You come across a lot more frustrated as to why you were not on the call instead and why you aren’t half as funny as Ayla. I think agencies will have every known personality’s bedroom recordings. I don’t think anyone should ideally be discussing these, next audio-video could be their’s. Say women who are on video calls with men half their age all night long. A woman with a something a sense of humor priceless for everything else there is MasterCard. Of course you would know if the audio was concocted or not.

Don’t glorify Ayla. She is same as IK. They both deserve each other. Can someone please share the leak. A lot many of the PTI supporters are claiming it is fake (for Obvious Reasons). How do you know about tharki budhay? Whosoever “designed” the audio is funny actually. Nawaz used to send his official plane to India to pick some lady in his early 90s time in office and even spent a night or two in a rest house in Bahawalpur near RD 50. Having seen the replies to this, the only thing in reflecting to your state of mind! Chaskey, I don’t think he’ll touch you with a barge pole even at this age. How did u deduce that the audio is original without forensics? A “lawyer” believing a cheap quality edited audio is real this app can’t be free.

And this is how “women” make fun of other women on alleged stuff. The same women play aurat card later. You better check with agencies, they must have your audio and video in their inventory as well . Just start thrashing agencies and ur audio / videos will surface. Of course Aunty, but lets not forget Ayla Malik was entertaining a call from a frustrated tharki budha. Meanwhile; the non-cringe, eloquent, in-touch with his feminine side, non-thurki budha that Ayesha thinks very highly off. Hope you at least got an iPhone like Kim Barker was offered! But then, you aren’t Caucasian so I’m sure you probably got offered an oppo. you come off as a wajji hui khuli hui tarsi hui taxi?? doesn’t mean I share my opinions. AUDIO leak aside whether it’s real or fake. The leak should be condemnable and who is doing it is far more worse than the talk in the leaked audio. Madam how u feel if your internet browser history leaked?

Ladies like you go inside gas station to pay only to find a young immigrant student which can spend a night with you. Morality? did he ask the youth to not make girl friends and sit in the masjid and do ibadat ? All of you aunties have been against him from day one. So good for u. Show me one pti supporter who has stopped supporting him after this release from Pakistans inter sex intelligence. You don’t have anything left for tharak. You are just a waste of time for all tharki guys. Guys will need WD40 to open a rusted door. Liberal chicks sari IK ki audio ko repeat per laga kar geeli ho rahi hain.

There is no legal mechanism in Pakistan in which if father of the child doesn’t pay maintenance for certain number of years, sole custody should be given to mother. Why an entire system requires an absent father of a child at every step while mother is raising the kid alone.

Imagine you don’t know the whereabouts of a father but you still require his permission to justify that minor has has consent of both parents from travel to almost everything else in Pakistan. How it’s a welfare of a child which under Guardians and Wards Act 1890 declares the ‘welfare of a minor’ a paramount consideration when a child and a single parent raising them is restricted at every step due to administrative challenges.

In most cases lower courts awarding ridiculous minimum amount as a maintenance is a joke even when mothers provide the evidence of how much father is earning. Trust me in most cases this amount doesn’t even pay the commute costs to the courts let alone meeting child’s child ends. Lower courts staff in many cases are compromised either due to their inherent bias against divorcee mothers as home wreckers or how men on the other side manipulate the system through bribes or using a bro code and playing victim.

We won’t make a progress only through amending laws when the actual court proceedings are compromised & when the entire system needs an overhaul because of structural flaws. The mindset of the lower courts judges, lower staff and lawyers needs a special nudge. And indeed – well said – much thought and deliberation required in order to change the archaic ways of decision making in family cases – sad to see that the superior courts do not want to proactively develop the jurisprudence in matters relating to visitation? custody & maintenance.

It’s the same in India where Hindu, Christian women get all such rights in divorce but Muslim women doesn’t. The reason they say it is as Muslim personal law.

افسوس کا مقام ہے اتنے مرد ہو کر ایک اکیلی عورت پر ہاتھ اٹھاتے ہیں کیا ان کے گھروں میں مائیں بہنیں نہیں ہیں ایسے لوگوں کو چوراہے میں پھانسی دینی چاہیئے

جیسے لڑ رہے ہیں یہ کہیں میاں بیوی تو نہیں خاتون بھی بال نوچ رہی ہیں اور چپل سے بندے کی تواضع کرنا چاہ رہی ہیں پر بس نہیں چل رہا بندے کو پولیس والے سے تھپڑ پڑا ہے کافی گھمبیر صورتحال ہے

سب کو موردالزام ٹھہرا رہے ہو۔ وڈیو بغور دیکھو تو شوہر کے علاؤہ کسی نے عورت پر ہاتھ نہیں اٹھایا۔ باقی لوگ تو دونوں کو بیچ بچا کرارہے ہیں۔

ان گلو بٹوں کو دیکھو ایک ڈاکٹر کو ایسے ٹریٹ کر رھے ھیں جن کو باقی دنیا سلام پیش کرتی ھے مسیحا ھوتے ھیں ، گلوبٹ پولیس دیکھ رھا ھے۰ ملک کس کے حوالے کر دیا یا خدایا

ایس ایچ او نے تو بچ بچاؤ کی پوری کوشش کی ہے۔ ایس ایچ او کو عہدے سے ہٹانے کا کوئی جواز نہیں بنتا ۔ بیچارہ مفت میں رگڑا گیا۔
پلیز معطلی پر نظر ثانی کریں۔
تاہم باقی فریقین کے خلاف مزید کاروائی کی جائے ۔
عورت اور مرد کزن دونوں کے خلاف۔ ۔

جی بلکل
حتکہ SHO نے بھی اس بندے کو تھپڑ مارا جس نے خاتون پر ہاتھ اٹھایا۔

غیر ضروری طور پر پولیس کو بدنام نہ کریں حضور

پولیس والے نے عورت پر تشدد کرنے والےکو زور سے تھپڑ مارا، پولیس کو بلاوجہ بدنام نہیں کرنا چاہیے۔ جس بندے نے عورت پر تشدد کیا اسے فوراً گرفتار کرنا چاہئیے

ہاں پولیس کا تو کوئی قصور نہیں ہے دو فریقین میں سے ایک نے اٹھ کر دوسرے پر حملہ کر دیا تو پولیس والوں نے مداخلت کی بلکہ انچارج نے خود اس حملہ آور مرد کو تھپڑ مار کر کمرے سے باہر نکال دیا، اور امید ہے بعد کی کارروائی بھی کی ہو گی لہٰذا سنسنی سے اجتناب کریں

ایک بندے نے ہاتھ اٹھایا اور اس بندے کو پولیس والے نے تھپڑ رسید کیا
دوسرے مرد تو بیچ بچاؤ کر رہے تھے ۔ اصل کہانی کیا ہے وہ بتائیں

پولیس کے مطابق میاں بیوی کا جھگڑا تھا صلح کے لیے بلایا تھا اور خاوند کی طرف سے کوئی اس کا کزن تھا جس نے مارا اس پہ پرچہ درج ہو چکا ہے اور وہ حوالات میں ہے ۔
اور یہ سب اچانک ہوا اور لگ بھی ایسا ہی رہا ہے

لعنت ہے اس شخص پہ جس نے عورت پہ ہاتھ اٹھایا اور باقی مرد ہجڑوں کی طرح منہ دیکھ رہے تھے ایک دفعہ صحیح سے اس شخص کی چھترول ہونی چاہیے تھی

اس SHO کا یہ رویہ دیکھ کر بہت افسوس ہوا ہم جیسا کوئی غریب بند انچی آواز میں بات نہیں کر سکتا ، اس آدمی کا یہ SHO کے سامنے اس طرح تشدد کرنا اور SHO صاحب کی بے بسی سوالیہ نشان ہے

خاتون سے بدتمیزی اور ہاتھ اٹھانے والے آدمی کو سر عام کوڑے لگنے چاہیئے۔

یہ پرچے اور جیل/جیل کھیل کے اِن جیسے مجرموں کی رسی دراز بالکل نہیں کرنی چاہیئے۔

جانور مزاج انسان کا لحاظ کیوں؟

The world is on fire so why not tell me about the best scented candle you’ve ever burned in Pakistan in any city? Well for me it was maybe this which i cannot purchase more than once a year bc $ but oh it is a good one. I treat myself to one every other year or so, and the best part is that it lingers for a day or two after you burn it. Woodsmoke and mulling spices. I would paint the insides of my nostrils with this wax if that were at all medically advisable.

Black Forest is great. It smells like a mythical woodland in a dark fairy tale (and both the hot and cold throw is insane). I just got the Tonka and Almond Milk scent of these, and it’s amazing… I LOVE my WoodWick candles. My partner and I really liked the Trilogy version of this by Woodwick! It’s Fireside, Redwood and then Sandalwood Clove. Every candle I’ve gotten from my partner has the most amazing scent, I have so many I haven’t even burned because they’re too pretty, but if I leave the lid open it fill the whole room with goodness.

It smells like The Will To Get Out Of Bed In The Morning with notes of Lots Of Ppl With Trauma and ADD Succeed In Life and a splash of One Day You’ll Travel Internationally Again And Write In Cute Coffee Shops. I go through at least one a month. Definitely this but there’s no way I’m getting this again so expensive for a small. This small company makes such good quality candles with amazing throw. This is my favourite.

I knew I would find it in here!! I love this candle so much. Every now and then I’ll scroll into Bath and Body Works on a whim and a prayer hoping to find it. I almost never do. i miss her everyday. but also i don’t bc i have a couple hidden that it’ll never burn again just so i don’t lose the feeling i get when i burn this candle and can smell it every once in a while. All-time favorite, never got tired of it. Just smells like the freshest cut apples all day. This one is like flower honey and so good all year. Clean and bright. Sweet and light. Love it!! I try to get them from Marshall’s cuz they aren’t super cheap otherwise but I love them so I buy from their site sometimes too.

Is it a pine scent? I like their sparkling cinnamon because it’s a more natural spice scent compared to others. Wondering if this is similarly fresh? I can’t do sweet/cloying/floral. I have two very different scents. Yankee candle’s blackberry tea (I buy multiple if they’re available) and magic candle company’s pirate water that smells like Disney world’s pirate of the Caribbean ride. Amber & Moss scent wins for me. Like a forest crossed with a reading room filled with leather chairs.

Ok so the Sand and Paws (brand is sand and fog but their odor eliminating line is the best by far) candles are all great, but by far my favorite was the espresso one, it’s the perfect smell of delicious coffee and when you burn it it fills the room w fresh coffee smell and yes. I love candles that smell like baked goods, and I’m partial to ones like gingerbread scents, vanilla, and banana bread – but this one I bought a few weeks ago is my current favorite. It smells amazing.

یہ راولاکوٹ میں قومی بچت کا ادارہ ہے جہاں پنشن لینے کے لیے آنے والے پنشنر قطار میں کھڑا ہونے کے لیں ابھی رات 9بجے ہی لائن لگا چکے ہیں۔پنشن کل صبح 9 بجے کے بعد صرف 20لوگوں کو ملے گی۔ ڈاکخانے سے ایک ہی حکم کے تحت یہ کیس قومی بچت کے ادارہ میں منتقل ہو گے لیکن قومی بچت کی اس برانچ

کے پاس اتنا اسٹاف ہی نہیں کہ کہ وہ 20سے زیادہ لوگوں کو پنشن کی ادائیگی ممکن بنا سکیں۔ اسٹیٹ بینک آف پاکستان کو اس کا فوری نوٹس لینا چاہیے اور قومی بچت ادارہ کی انتظامیہ کو پابند کیا جائے کہ وہ سب لوگوں کو پنشن کی ادائیگی آسان طریقے سے یقینی بنائیں

اسٹیٹ بینک نے پرائویٹ بینکوں کا پابند کیا ھے پینچن اکاؤنٹ کھولنے کے لیے یہ لوگ یا اس طرح کے لوگ کسی بھی پرائویٹ بینک میں پینشن اکاؤنٹ کھلوائیں اور آسانی سے ھر مہینے پینشن پائیں

نہیں جن کا اکاؤنٹ ڈاکخانے میں تھا اور پیسے جمع تھے ڈاکخانے وہ قومی بچت میں شفٹ ہو گئے ہیں

وہ لوگ اپنے اکاؤنٹ کھول کے پینشن وہاں لے سکتے ھیں بینک میں ھمارے پاس کافی لوگ لیتے ھیں

ان اداروں میں ایک اور تباہی ھوتی ھے ھم مسلمانوں کے لیے جو یہاں پر سود پر رقم رکھوا کر ھم لوگ اللہ اور اللہ کے رسول ص سے کھلم کھلی جنگ کا اعلان کرتے ھیں

میڈیم خدا نا کرے آپ کو کبھی ان صورتحال سے گزرنا پڑے، یہ جوان ساری رات گزاریں گے تاکہ صبح انکے بزرگ ان کی جگہ پر ا جائیں ۔ کبھی آپ نے ڈاکخانہ اور قومی بچت یا نیشنل بینک سے اپنی یا اپنے کسی بزرگ کی پینشن لی ہے؟
نہیں تو ایک دفعہ جا کر دیکھیے گا ضرور۔

میڈیم یہ ہیں ہمارے مڈل کلاس کے مسائل اور مصیبتیں ، ہمیں کوئی سروکار نہیں کہ گدھا پاگل ہے، شیر بیمار ہے، کتا بھونک رہا ہے، مارخور حرام خور ہے۔ ہمارا مسلے تو یہ ہیں کہ ہمارا حق اور انصاف، ہم سب کو آسانی سے مل سکے، ہمیں اپنا حق لینے کے لیے ذلیل و رسواء نا ہونا پڑے۔

https://youtu.be/M31HORNB9cA

I am surprised that none of you are talking about Yasmeen Ghauri a Pakistani supermodel that dominated the high fashion scene in the early 90s and is widely regarded as one of the models with the best walks of all time. She was in the big league with Naomi and Chrissy. I donk’t know why’s she not as talked about.

So who is Yasmeen Ghauri and where is she these days? She is living in Canada with her family. The hot videos of Yasmeen Ghauri are still a treat to watch. Some people say that she is not completely of Pakistani origin because she was half white. Does it really matter. The thing is that her being half white doesn’t change the fact that she’s still a brown woman with distinctive south Asian features. Pakistani heritage but grew up in Canada. Always had an affinity with her. She was up there with the best in the 90s. Her father was a Pakistani and mother German.

When I was talking to some of my friends, the response was weird. I said to them that some of you seriously lack comprehension as when did I say that she’s a native Pakistani. She’s German-Pakistani, and grew up in a Pakistani Muslim community in Canada. She was goddess of her time, a Pakistani goddess. She’s definitely one of the few models that could’ve rivaled Naomi on the runway at the time.

She was a very private person offstage. she herself said that she thought of her being a supermodel as a job and not a lifestyle. Most Pakistanis don’t follow international fashion hence majority would be unaware about Yasmeen or any other Pakistani working on that stage. One of my all time favorite. She was on the same level as Crawford and Campbell but doesn’t get as much as recognition. The confusion is that once Yasmeen said that she was half Indian and half German, but the truth is that her father was Pakistani.

I absolutely love how she flaunted her broad shoulders especially since in society people view it on women as masculine. She left the industry way too early but retired to focus on family which is fair enough. Otherwise she was up there with the Naomi’s etc. Sabina Pasha also doing good in Canada. By the way, Mahmood bhatti (designer) must have known miss ghauri pretty well. I think it was Tyra banks who said Yasmeen had the best walk and also taught her how to do her makeup backstage bc the artists sucked at deeper skin tones.

By youth I don’t mean youthia but literally the real young people who are the future of any country and Pakistan is no exception. They are the real wealth of any nation as they ensure that the country would prosper and thrive in the future too and make things better.

Why is our youth so passive? No ideas? No ambition? No desire? Your answers please in comments would also be appreciated as this is an open discussion and an issue for all of us. Some of us may be part of youth in any capacity or have some youth in our households and in our circle. The you have no hopes and aspirations in a lawless society where might is right. Youth are depoliticised, religiously radicalized and brainwashed through media curriculum and by all means. The youth is being robbed of critical thinking & ability to question, in the universities. Mad about cricket and social media and deviated from fine moral and ethical values.

I see the problem as an absence of recreation and creative spaces/agency, especially in urban settings—really not much to do besides eating and perhaps some sports for boys. Like you often mention, we need unregulated, dense spaces for ideas/creativity to flourish. Don’t see this happening given how much the state interferes in our lives and how much it regulates spaces. Honestly, I find Lahore boring—there’s really nothing fun to do, and can’t even walk anywhere.

What I have seen and believed is that youth is here just to score degrees and secure a permanent job for some pretty good reasons of extra organized incentives. They don’t have any desire to think out of the box and explore avenues that produces new knowledge. This is typical going with the traditional bandwagon. Relying upon Economics, people tend to respond to the incentives. The social opp. cost of private & public sectors should be considered, I guess. Youth, acting rationally, know the power of the green number plate in Pak. We should create a better incentive structure in the private sector.

Some other factors Pakistani youth are passive are:

• No role models. Inspiration is important.
• Teachers & parents don’t encourage reading outside the school syllabus books.
• Limited opportunity 4 extra-curriculars
• Poor content in Films/drama. May sound strange but in times of need good Hollywood movies have often given me some inspiration.
• Students are not learning syllabus books and you think they will read other books. They can become successful even if they read syllabus book properly. Youth spends most of the time working, studying, on the job, making ends meet. Creative pursuits are followed when the mind is at ease. Our education system is based on rote learning and fear, it does not give room for creativity. Plus lack of guidance. I somehow feel it’s lack of good parenting which causes kids to not grow at their fullest. Only if parents guide kids about opportunities in this world, a kid will have open mind and willingness to see the world therefore learn.

Number of factors that contribute significantly but i think its an outcome of flawed family socialization & societal glorifications that dictates and expect children to follow dimensional way of life & children’s ingrained that dictation so much. Ideas alone are worthless unless you’re provided a platform for critical analysis, mentorship and guidance to take it towards implementation. we seriously lack when it comes to the implementation part. we will invest in plots but not in any business/idea. its a societal issue. Because of restrictions that education system imposing over the minds of youth as they are limited to certain course works instead this system should allow them to work progressively to have ambitions,ideas and desire in their lives.

A good teacher can inspire a pupil’s interest in the subject. In 7th grade a great Islamiat teacher had me digging into Tafseer & Sahih Hadiths at home, on my own, to impress him.

It’s an open secret that you can cheaply buy a bride in Swat Mardan Pakistan or from Afghanistan. The rate is very low and the girls are young and beautiful.

Some try to cover up this by saying that this is just a reverse dowry and it’s only for the protection of girl’s future just in case something happens.

I have also heard about the stories where people have been scammed by these brides in Pakistan. So a person goes in to Swat or tribal areas of Pakistan, marry a young beautiful girl and brings her home in Punjab or Sindh. After couple of days, he finds girl vanished from his house along with valuables, jewelry, cash etc. No one can then follow up with the family of girl back in hinterland as that’s a virtual lawless area without much reach for the police or justice. 

These days people are acting surprised on the news of Najeeba Afghan, a young pretty Afghani girl who was sold for marriage for only Rs. 50000 and even that in installments to an elderly groom. That is so common but these days it’s a fashion to show outrage on social media and them move on to next spicy thing. Many of these brides just stay with their elderly husbands as a second or third or even fourth wife for life and are quite malleable as they have no education or awareness.

As long as consent is there, there is no problem in marriage between two humans but in this case it’s a business and more often than not girl has no say in it. But if you ask from these girls and I had a chance to talk to a 22 years old Swati bride in Islamabad who was with her 55 year old husband for 5 years, she said that she was glad to be in that relationship and in Islamabad as life was like hell back in Swat where she hardly had any life and no one really cared about her. But now in Islamabad her older husband was too kind and nice to her and she felt great affection towards him. 

Yes I understand that there might not be many success stories but there always is other side of story.